What Parents of Teens & Young Adults Need to Hear Right Now

An interview with Amanda Yannarelli, LCSW, CASAC

Parenting a teenager or young adult today can feel overwhelming. Between social media, rising mental health concerns, and an ever-changing world, many parents are left wondering if they’re doing enough, or doing too much.

In fact, recent data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention shows that more than 40% of high school students report persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness. It’s no surprise that parents feel the weight of wanting to protect, guide, and support their children through it all.

We sat down with Amanda Yannarelli, LCSW, CASAC, one of our clinicians at The Lighthouse Retreat & Wellness Center, to ask a simple but powerful question:

What would you say to parents of young adults and/or teenagers?

Amanda shares:

1. Focus on connection over control

Many parents feel pressure to “manage” their teen’s behavior, especially with social media, mental health concerns, and uncertainty about the future. But what I see in my work is that lasting influence comes from connection. When young people feel genuinely understood and not judged or immediately corrected, they’re much more likely to open up and make thoughtful choices.

2. Don't panic about distance

It's very common for teens and young adults to pull away as part of normal development. Rather than reacting to every moment of distance, it could be more helpful to look at the bigger picture and keep the door open for communication without forcing it.

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

It’s incredibly hard to watch your child struggle, whether it’s anxiety, motivation, identity, or relationships. But growth often requires space to experience and move through discomfort. Supporting doesn’t always mean fixing, it can look like sitting with them, staying curious, and reminding them they’re not alone while they figure things out.

Amanda’s perspective reflects something some families understand: genuine connection and understanding (not "perfect" parenting) are what support long-term emotional health.

When families have the right support, these moments of tension and uncertainty can become opportunities for deeper connection, clearer communication, and meaningful growth.

At The Lighthouse Retreat & Wellness Center, we offer support that meets both parents and young people where they are through the NEST Approach. It's one of our most powerful offerings for families navigating this stage of life. By combining individual therapy with collaborative family sessions where each therapist is present, families experience a level of understanding and momentum that traditional models often miss.

If you’re feeling stuck, concerned, or simply want more support in navigating this phase of parenting, don’t have to figure it out on your own.

Reach out to learn more about The NEST program or to connect with Amanda Yannarelli for individual support.

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