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Lost In the Woods

LOST IN THE WOODS By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC In September I had the opportunity to lead a retreat with the amazing Lighthouse director, Cathy Anesi. Leading a retreat has been a dream of mine for many years, and this first experience did not disappoint! It was a powerful, life-changing experience for all, including the leaders. [...]

I Love It When My Clients Cry

I LOVE IT WHEN MY CLIENTS CRY By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC I do. I love it when my clients cry, which I know sounds bad, but let me explain. Helping people to make changes in their lives is the crux of the work I do. In order to do that we talk—we tell stories, we [...]

Fifty Shades of Blue

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW-R Everyone has ups and downs, and days when they are feeling blue.  However, Depression is very different from having a bad day or two.  There are many types and severities of depression.  There is moderate pervasive depression, grief and bereavement, depression associated with a medical illness, and bi-polar disorder.  There is situational [...]

Cut Yourself Some Slack

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC In my work with people on making change I hear a lot about guilt—guilt about having good intentions but not following through, guilt about making promises again and again with minimal results. This is what I want to say to any of you feeling guilty about your lack of follow-through. [...]

Too Angry to Love

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW Although some relationships end amicably, many more end turbulently, often with hostile feelings between partners. It is normal to reverberate with those feelings after the dissolution of a relationship; however, working on healing is a vital part of the separation process. Some people are so angry or hurt that they are [...]

A Nail Polish Metaphor

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC On Saturday my sister-in-law took my girls and me out for manicures. A lovely treat for all of us. I don’t get manicures often, mostly because they tend to dry out my nails and they split after the polish is long gone. But once or twice a year I sacrifice the [...]

What Your Husband Isn’t Saying

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW-R The stereotypical portrayal of men being bad communicators isn’t really always the case, yet there are some thoughts which many men share about their relationships that they find difficult verbalizing. Starting in childhood, men are often socialized differently from women. As a result actions often replace communication, emotion can be seen [...]

Emotional Intimacy – What are We Really Asking For?

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW-R Many people ask their partners for a more intimate relationship without really being sure what they want. If you are unclear about what you would like to see change, it is hard to bring about a satisfying result. Emotional intimacy is different from sexual intimacy. If sexual intimacy involves physical closeness [...]