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The Energy of Compassion versus the Energy of Anger

By Catherine Anesi, LCSW, RM The energy of compassion feels soft, peaceful, kind, and loving. The energy of anger feels hard, demanding, needy, and uncomfortable. It’s so difficult to watch a loved one suffer. Many of us want to rush in to fix their situation only to be left feeling angry and resentful when they do [...]

My Challenge with Journaling

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC For years I’ve had an on and off again relationship with journaling. I would journal regularly through difficult periods of my life then stop for long periods of time. And all the while I’d encourage my clients to journal, coming clean each time about my tenuous relationship with my own [...]

And I Take A Deep Breath

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC When I catch myself thinking that same thought again… and again. You know, that thought that keeps going around and around in my head, the one that brings me nowhere new. The one that just makes me feel sad, or angry, or defeated. The one that does nothing to open [...]

Lost In the Woods

LOST IN THE WOODS By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC In September I had the opportunity to lead a retreat with the amazing Lighthouse director, Cathy Anesi. Leading a retreat has been a dream of mine for many years, and this first experience did not disappoint! It was a powerful, life-changing experience for all, including the leaders. [...]

I Love It When My Clients Cry

I LOVE IT WHEN MY CLIENTS CRY By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC I do. I love it when my clients cry, which I know sounds bad, but let me explain. Helping people to make changes in their lives is the crux of the work I do. In order to do that we talk—we tell stories, we [...]

Fifty Shades of Blue

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW-R Everyone has ups and downs, and days when they are feeling blue.  However, Depression is very different from having a bad day or two.  There are many types and severities of depression.  There is moderate pervasive depression, grief and bereavement, depression associated with a medical illness, and bi-polar disorder.  There is situational [...]

Cut Yourself Some Slack

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC In my work with people on making change I hear a lot about guilt—guilt about having good intentions but not following through, guilt about making promises again and again with minimal results. This is what I want to say to any of you feeling guilty about your lack of follow-through. [...]

Too Angry to Love

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW Although some relationships end amicably, many more end turbulently, often with hostile feelings between partners. It is normal to reverberate with those feelings after the dissolution of a relationship; however, working on healing is a vital part of the separation process. Some people are so angry or hurt that they are [...]

A Nail Polish Metaphor

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC On Saturday my sister-in-law took my girls and me out for manicures. A lovely treat for all of us. I don’t get manicures often, mostly because they tend to dry out my nails and they split after the polish is long gone. But once or twice a year I sacrifice the [...]