Going with the Flow

By Cathleen O’Connor, PhD What does it mean to go with the flow? Depending on how you think about it the meaning might be positive or negative. It might conjure up an image of someone in touch with the cosmic path of life or someone without a will of his own. Have you had the [...]

The Top Five Issues

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC One of the perks of doing what I do for a living is that I get an inside view of a wide range of human behaviors, feelings, thoughts, and experiences. From that perspective I am able to get a sense of “the norm,” at least within the context of my [...]

Practice Makes Peace.

Have you ever felt as if your days fly by and at the end of the day you feel as if you haven’t gotten anything accomplished? One day melts into the next and before you know it weeks have passed. People can spend months and years not understanding why life seems to pass them by. [...]

There’s Nothing Wrong with You

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC My daughters recently told me a story from when they were little that got me thinking… When the girls were about 7 and 5 or so, Emma convinced Molly that people only use their front teeth to chew. Upon hearing this news Molly was horrified. She knew full well that [...]

Fifty Shades of Blue

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW-R Everyone has ups and downs, and days when they are feeling blue.  However, Depression is very different from having a bad day or two.  There are many types and severities of depression.  There is moderate pervasive depression, grief and bereavement, depression associated with a medical illness, and bi-polar disorder.  There is situational [...]

Cut Yourself Some Slack

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC In my work with people on making change I hear a lot about guilt—guilt about having good intentions but not following through, guilt about making promises again and again with minimal results. This is what I want to say to any of you feeling guilty about your lack of follow-through. [...]

Too Angry to Love

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW Although some relationships end amicably, many more end turbulently, often with hostile feelings between partners. It is normal to reverberate with those feelings after the dissolution of a relationship; however, working on healing is a vital part of the separation process. Some people are so angry or hurt that they are [...]

A Nail Polish Metaphor

By Tanya Cole-Lesnick, LCSW, PLLC On Saturday my sister-in-law took my girls and me out for manicures. A lovely treat for all of us. I don’t get manicures often, mostly because they tend to dry out my nails and they split after the polish is long gone. But once or twice a year I sacrifice the [...]

What Your Husband Isn’t Saying

By Leslie Fabian, LCSW-R The stereotypical portrayal of men being bad communicators isn’t really always the case, yet there are some thoughts which many men share about their relationships that they find difficult verbalizing. Starting in childhood, men are often socialized differently from women. As a result actions often replace communication, emotion can be seen [...]